My eldest got married last fall, and until today she and her husband had been house sitting for a couple who has been spending the past school year in South America. Today, however, was moving day, into a place of their own, finally.
Dad (in-law) only had to supply an old SUV for transportation, so I was able to enjoy watching my kids’ friends in action, all while remembering younger years when similar friends, now old like Dad, filled cars and trucks, eked sofas around treacherous corners, chowed on pizza and beer in later celebration. I’m glad that their future is ahead of them. I’m glad that, at least for some adventures, my past is behind me.
On the way to and from their house I continued to listen to Roy Scranton‘s War Porn. People are also on the move in that narrative, in Iraq, in the United States. So far, they’re not faring as well. I’m doubtful for much reprieve.
I sit on the back porch and ask myself: why am I reading this today, this weekend, Memorial Day weekend in the US? Why not relax, perhaps remember War in a quieter state of mind?
Yet so many combat veterans have to reflect this weekend on Life’s realities and live within them: reflect and live successful moves, yes, perhaps, topped off by a slice of meat-lovers’ and a cold, microbrewery pale ale.
Yet also, perhaps, reflect and relive death and destruction long ago or just months ago, experienced for reasons that—that what?
A burger on the grill here, an anger-filled/tear-filled/empty-filled midnight walk there. Life, Death, now, then, back, forth, hour after hour.
I at least get to enjoy my sunset today with a glass of Malbec. I need to be thankful. I am. For my family. For my life.
And I owe it to the living and the dead to be only so relaxed. Moved, maybe. Yes, moved.
It’s the least I can do.